Happy Valentine’s Day


True Intimacy

Friends mean well, even when they hurt you. But when an enemy puts his arm around your shoulder–watch out! Proverbs 27:6 Good News Translation

“Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see in their soul.” (Author Unknown).
Contrary to popular opinion, intimacy is more than just sex. It requires getting to know each other deeply. It is being vulnerable with each other or as Bishop TD Jakes puts it, “in-to-me-see.” It is the time that you and your spouse choose to be transparent and honest with each other despite the fear you may feel about letting it all show. For some, it is easier to bare all in the bedroom rather than baring their soul, but to experience a deeper connection in marriage it takes having those tough conversations. It is the heart to heart conversations that may bring about tears. It often takes lovingly, hurting each other’s feelings, to ensure the relationship is saved.
In our twenty plus years of marriage my husband and I have noticed the most growth in our relationship during the times we had to have those tough conversations. Hiding the deep concerns, fears, and not attending to the issues that are festering in your relationship can destroy true intimacy. According to Dave Willis of Stronger Marriages, “Secrecy is the enemy to intimacy. Every healthy relationship is built on a foundation of honesty and trust.”
To experience true intimacy, we must first begin by being honest with ourselves, with God and with each other. My challenge to each couple this Valentine’s Day is to move past every hindrance that so easily besets you and your relationship. Many are plagued with heart issues from the past that have hindered you from connecting totally with God and your spouse. It’s time to deal with the pain of your past. Trust God to heal your heart and restore the damage that has been done as you approach the issue.
Let’s Pray….Daddy God, I come to you on behalf of my brothers and sisters that are experiencing difficulties in their relationships right now. I ask that You grant them the grace to deal with the tough issues they have been facing. I pray that you will surround them with the support and the encouragement that they need as they begin to have the tough conversations and move forward towards healing. Surround them with Your love. Teach them to love like You love. Minister to the pain that they have experienced over the years and help them to forgive. I pray that You will make their relationship a trophy of Your grace. In Jesus name, Amen.
Go Deeper: Seek out a marriage mentoring couple to help guide you through the challenging times in your relationship. In doing so, make sure that it is a Godly couple that you can trust and that has your best interest in heart.

Grace and Peace,

Mary ~ Your Breakthrough Coach



© Mary Pinckney, February 2018

Keep Your Eyes Open..


Proverbs 16:3 (AMP), Roll your works upon the Lord [commit and trust them wholly to Him; He will cause your thoughts to become agreeable to His will, and] so shall your plans be established and succeed.

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This has become one of my go-to-scriptures when I am feeling overwhelmed. It helps me to refocus so that I can see that I am getting in my own way again.

I encourage you today to be content in God’s grace upon your life. Be content in knowing that all you have to do is have faith in Him to help you overcome every challenge you will ever face. Be content in being submitted to His will and not your own. Most of all, be content in gaining victory through His perfection. He is the source of our strength. He is able to refresh us when our strength is gone.

Father, we take so much pride in doing what we know is best. We get lost in our own ability and neglect the help you have freely given. Teach us to value your grace in our everyday life. Teach us to recognize the grace you have given us to accomplish what you have called us to. I pray that every day we will commit our works to you so that you will establish our thoughts. May our eyes be open to the countless rewards that await us when we do it your way and not our own. In Jesus’ name, Amen

© Mary Pinckney, 2015

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Trust the Process



We can make our plans,but the Lord determines our steps. Proverbs 16:9 (NLT)

We all reach a place in our lives wherein we don’t always understand exactly what the Lord is doing next. Nothing looks familiar. Everything begins to change, but in the midst of it all, God remains the same.

In these times of uncertainty we have to learn to trust the process. We must trust the Lord’s heart towards us.  We must trust that He has your best interest at heart.  Most of all, we must trust that He will lead you to our expected end.

Be at peace today knowing that you are right where you need to be for this season in your life. It will all unfold soon….

Father, teach us to trust that our times are in your hands. Teach us to know that we can rely on your unfailing love even in times of uncertainty. May your grace continue to unfold in our everyday lives as you make all things beautiful in it’s time.  In Jesus name Amen

Grace and Peace,



How Do You Handle Pressure?



 Blessed (happy, fortunate, to be envied) is the man whom You discipline and instruct, O Lord, and teach out of Your law, 13 That You may give him power to keep himself calm in the days of adversity.        Psalm 94:12-13 (AMP)

Have you ever taken the time to think about how you handle pressure?   Do you run and hide? Does it paralyze you? It is good to take an honest assessment of how we deal with life.  It is a known fact that we will have challenges.  Life will not always hand us ideal situations but giving up is not a viable option. You can’t just opt out every time things get a little heated.   If we faint in the day of adversity our strength is small (Proverbs 24:10). In order to win in life, we must have perseverance and endurance.  James 1: 4 states, “Perseverance must finish its work so that we may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

As I take a look at our key scripture text, I am reminded of God’s love for us.  We are truly fortunate to have a Father that disciplines and instructs us.  He is always teaching us.  It is our job to be teachable and make sure we are paying attention to the lessons of our lives.  This verse also stresses that the Lord gives us power to keep ourselves calm in the days of adversity. Where does that power come from?  I believe it is a direct result of what we learn from the Word of God and our union with Him. It is good to know that our God is strategic.  Everything He does has purpose.  Nothing that we encounter surprises Him.  He uses the hardships of our journey to mold us and shape us into a vessel that is pleasing to Him. 

When you are faced with difficult issues, take the time needed to consult the word of God. It is through His word that we will find the ammunition that we need to keep us firmly planted as the pressures of life mount. We will be able to stand still and not pull back or retreat when times are hard as we consult His word for guidance.  My prayer for you today is that you will begin to desire the sincere milk of the Word and allow it to strengthen you in your everyday walk.  Be teachable and allow the Lord to train and instruct you in the way that you should go. It will be well with you.

 Father your word teaches us that we can trust you in our daily lives. I pray that we will take the time needed to learn the lessons that you are teaching us. I pray that we will be students of your word, desiring it as our necessary food.

Grace and Peace,

© Mary Pinckney August 2013, excerpt from Be Attitudes: A Devotional Journey To A Healthier Happier You
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