Happy Valentine’s Day

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True Intimacy

Friends mean well, even when they hurt you. But when an enemy puts his arm around your shoulder–watch out! Proverbs 27:6 Good News Translation

“Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see in their soul.” (Author Unknown).
Contrary to popular opinion, intimacy is more than just sex. It requires getting to know each other deeply. It is being vulnerable with each other or as Bishop TD Jakes puts it, “in-to-me-see.” It is the time that you and your spouse choose to be transparent and honest with each other despite the fear you may feel about letting it all show. For some, it is easier to bare all in the bedroom rather than baring their soul, but to experience a deeper connection in marriage it takes having those tough conversations. It is the heart to heart conversations that may bring about tears. It often takes lovingly, hurting each other’s feelings, to ensure the relationship is saved.
In our twenty plus years of marriage my husband and I have noticed the most growth in our relationship during the times we had to have those tough conversations. Hiding the deep concerns, fears, and not attending to the issues that are festering in your relationship can destroy true intimacy. According to Dave Willis of Stronger Marriages, “Secrecy is the enemy to intimacy. Every healthy relationship is built on a foundation of honesty and trust.”
To experience true intimacy, we must first begin by being honest with ourselves, with God and with each other. My challenge to each couple this Valentine’s Day is to move past every hindrance that so easily besets you and your relationship. Many are plagued with heart issues from the past that have hindered you from connecting totally with God and your spouse. It’s time to deal with the pain of your past. Trust God to heal your heart and restore the damage that has been done as you approach the issue.
Let’s Pray….Daddy God, I come to you on behalf of my brothers and sisters that are experiencing difficulties in their relationships right now. I ask that You grant them the grace to deal with the tough issues they have been facing. I pray that you will surround them with the support and the encouragement that they need as they begin to have the tough conversations and move forward towards healing. Surround them with Your love. Teach them to love like You love. Minister to the pain that they have experienced over the years and help them to forgive. I pray that You will make their relationship a trophy of Your grace. In Jesus name, Amen.
Go Deeper: Seek out a marriage mentoring couple to help guide you through the challenging times in your relationship. In doing so, make sure that it is a Godly couple that you can trust and that has your best interest in heart.

Grace and Peace,

Mary ~ Your Breakthrough Coach

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© Mary Pinckney, February 2018
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It will be well..

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He set my feet upon a rock, steadying my footsteps and establishing my path. Psalm 40:2b AMP

2018 came in with a vengeance. On top of seeing snow in unexpected places this year, we have seen a number of tragedies, deaths, illnesses, among other life-altering challenges. It’s almost as if the bottom fell out and many of you find yourselves trying to find sure footing again. Is there a place of certainty that I can find rest? Is there hope for me, my family, and our future?

Even in this moment of transition I speak peace to the weary souls that are at a place of turmoil. I speak rest to your minds from the anxious toil. Cease striving trying to figure it all out and rest in the unfailing love of the Father; for He gives rest to His beloved.

We must learn to accept His sovereignty and receive His grace. There are situations we will never be able to understand. We are to trust that God has it all under control and He is working it all together for our good. He will also reveal His plan as time unfolds.

2nd Corinthians 12:9 encourages us to rely on the grace of God; “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Paul wanted God to remove the problems he faced because they seemed too much for him to bear, but God knowing all too well the purpose of those trials encouraged Him that His power was all He needed.

I challenge you today as you read this to take a step back and ask God to help you see your situation through His eyes. In times like these we need Him to broaden our perspective. As He does take comfort in the rest that He has already provided; be still my friend and know that He is God. There is nothing too hard for our God to handle. When everything around you is shaking, He is a firm foundation. He is the rock of ages. He knows how to steady you and establish your footing on solid ground.

Father, teach me to rest in your unfailing love. I admit I get lost trying to find my way through life’s ups and downs. I don’t always know where to go or what to think. I don’t always know what to do, but you do. May I take comfort in knowing that Your purposes for me will be fulfilled. There is nothing that I will encounter that can separate me from Your love. Thank you, Father. In Jesus’s name Amen.

 

Grace and Peace,

Mary

Your Breakthrough Coach ~ Breaking You through to a better you!

© Mary Pinckney, 2018

Right on Time for the New Year

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I hope you are all staying warm right now 😊

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Shalom,

Mary Pinckney ~ Your Breakthrough Coach

Merry Christmas

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For a child is born to us, a son is given to us. The government will rest on his shoulders. And he will be called: Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. His government and its peace will never end. He will rule with fairness and justice from the throne of his ancestor David for all eternity. The passionate commitment of the Lord of Heaven’s Armies will make this happen!  

Isaiah 9:6‭-‬7 NLT

What On Earth Am I Here For?

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And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.  Hebrews 12:1-3 NIV

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Born knowing He would die for the sin of mankind, that was the assignment given to Jesus. His life was already mapped out for Him before the foundations of this world were formed.  He knew that the sin of mankind would be placed on His shoulders. He knew He would be beaten and bruised for our transgressions and the chastisement of our peace would be placed upon Him.  His destiny was to lay down His life for a people of whom, many would reject Him.
Jesus was motivated by the joy of seeing us reconnected to God. His purpose was evident in His words as well as His actions.   Even though He struggled in the Garden of Gethsemane, He chose to keep going in spite of the pain that was on the horizon. His unselfish act kept Him focused on the end result. We can take lessons from the life of Jesus.
Just as Jesus was born with a purpose, so were you and I. God set eternity in our hearts from the moment we got here. He knew we would need something to keep driving us forward. When we take our eyes off what we think and feel and focus on those God has called us to reach, it should motivate us to keep moving forward as well. It is my prayer that the life of Jesus will bring comfort and hope to you as you continue towards your God-given purpose.  If you are struggling with what that purpose is today; take a moment and ask God to reveal to you His plan for your life.
Lord we want to take this time to thank you for the birth of your Son Jesus. Thank you for allowing Him to walk upon the Earth and be the example for us. May His attitude towards pleasing you and serving the purpose for which He came become our very own. In Jesus name, Amen.

Grace and Peace to you,

Mary ~Your Breakthrough Coach
© Mary Pinckney, November 2017

God’s Got You

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Proverbs 3:26 (ERV) You can trust the Lord to protect you. He will not let you fall into harm. 

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Trusting God has become a new buzz word. It is thrown around so loosely that we forget it’s connotation. Anytime we are going through challenging times the first words off the lips of others is normally “Just trust God, it will work out.”
What does it really mean to trust God? I have found in my very own life that trusting God required me to put forth some type of action to show that I believed what God was saying to me. Trusting God required me to stand still at times and knowing with sheer confidence I did not have to be in control. I did not have to come to my own rescue. It assured me that I had help, a reliable source and strength backing me. Proverbs 3:26 here in the Amplified version paints this picture clearly; For the Lord shall be your confidence, firm and strong, and shall keep your foot from being caught [in a trap or some hidden danger].

I implore you today not to take trusting God lightly. He will always be by your side. He is a source of strength in our times of weakness. He is a shield and a buckler whenever we find ourselves in danger. He is a provider when we are in need. And most of all He loves us with an everlasting love. We can rely on His faithfulness. We can trust His heart towards us.

Father even when my trust in You begins to wane. Remind me of Your faithfulness in my life. In Jesus name Amen

Grace and Peace to you,
Mary
Your Breakthrough Coach

 

© Mary Pinckney, December 2017

 

 

Don’t settle now

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Yes, you will suffer for a short time. But after that, God will make everything right. He will make you strong. He will support you and keep you from falling. He is the God who gives all grace. He chose you to share in his glory in Christ. That glory will continue forever. 1 Peter 5:10 ERV

You can’t give up now; you have come too far. The fight you are in right now is to help strengthen, establish and shape you for where you are going. You may not realize it but someone in your circle has been inspired by the fight that is in you.  If you cave now, you will be selling yourself short.  You are better than that.

Take a moment and consider who will be lacking because of what you did not finish?  In this life we often focus on ourselves when we are going through fiery circumstances. We lose sight of the fact that God has purpose in our pain. He desires to use our lives as a trophy of His grace.

 ust as He told Paul in 2nd Corinthians 12:9 My grace is sufficient for you, my strength  is made perfect in your times of weakness.  God is aware of the struggles you face. He is right there in the midst of it holding you up with His righteous right hand. He is there to help comfort your pain in the midnight hour. He is there to capture your tears in a bottle.  The challenge for us is to be able to see the glimpse of hope in the midst of the darkness we may be facing. 

 

My challenge to you today is to take a moment and reflect on the grace of God in your life. Sometimes the toughest challenges reveal the greatest strength.  Don’t walk away in the midst of the battle; you have what it takes to see it through.  It starts with believing in yourself and your own ability to become who God has created you to be.

 

Lord, all too often I struggle with staying consistent in the midst of challenges. Here I am today, committing my works to your hands. I ask that You would come along side of me and help me  to continue on even when times are hard. I ask that You would give me the grace and the strength needed to keep fighting and pushing until I see the reward You have for me. Infuse me with inner strength I pray. It is my desire to please you in all that I do. In Jesus’s name, Amen

 

Go Deeper:  Take time to create a confidence board with motivational quotes, scriptures, and reminders of God’s faithfulness to you over the years.  Every time you get discouraged take a look at where you came from as a point of encouragement.

 

Grace and Peace,

 

Mary

 

Your Breakthrough Coach

 

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© Mary Pinckney, October 2017