Happy Valentine’s Day

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True Intimacy

Friends mean well, even when they hurt you. But when an enemy puts his arm around your shoulder–watch out! Proverbs 27:6 Good News Translation

“Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see in their soul.” (Author Unknown).
Contrary to popular opinion, intimacy is more than just sex. It requires getting to know each other deeply. It is being vulnerable with each other or as Bishop TD Jakes puts it, “in-to-me-see.” It is the time that you and your spouse choose to be transparent and honest with each other despite the fear you may feel about letting it all show. For some, it is easier to bare all in the bedroom rather than baring their soul, but to experience a deeper connection in marriage it takes having those tough conversations. It is the heart to heart conversations that may bring about tears. It often takes lovingly, hurting each other’s feelings, to ensure the relationship is saved.
In our twenty plus years of marriage my husband and I have noticed the most growth in our relationship during the times we had to have those tough conversations. Hiding the deep concerns, fears, and not attending to the issues that are festering in your relationship can destroy true intimacy. According to Dave Willis of Stronger Marriages, “Secrecy is the enemy to intimacy. Every healthy relationship is built on a foundation of honesty and trust.”
To experience true intimacy, we must first begin by being honest with ourselves, with God and with each other. My challenge to each couple this Valentine’s Day is to move past every hindrance that so easily besets you and your relationship. Many are plagued with heart issues from the past that have hindered you from connecting totally with God and your spouse. It’s time to deal with the pain of your past. Trust God to heal your heart and restore the damage that has been done as you approach the issue.
Let’s Pray….Daddy God, I come to you on behalf of my brothers and sisters that are experiencing difficulties in their relationships right now. I ask that You grant them the grace to deal with the tough issues they have been facing. I pray that you will surround them with the support and the encouragement that they need as they begin to have the tough conversations and move forward towards healing. Surround them with Your love. Teach them to love like You love. Minister to the pain that they have experienced over the years and help them to forgive. I pray that You will make their relationship a trophy of Your grace. In Jesus name, Amen.
Go Deeper: Seek out a marriage mentoring couple to help guide you through the challenging times in your relationship. In doing so, make sure that it is a Godly couple that you can trust and that has your best interest in heart.

Grace and Peace,

Mary ~ Your Breakthrough Coach

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© Mary Pinckney, February 2018
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Right on Time for the New Year

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I hope you are all staying warm right now 😊

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Shalom,

Mary Pinckney ~ Your Breakthrough Coach

Merry Christmas

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For a child is born to us, a son is given to us. The government will rest on his shoulders. And he will be called: Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. His government and its peace will never end. He will rule with fairness and justice from the throne of his ancestor David for all eternity. The passionate commitment of the Lord of Heaven’s Armies will make this happen!  

Isaiah 9:6‭-‬7 NLT

God’s Got You

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Proverbs 3:26 (ERV) You can trust the Lord to protect you. He will not let you fall into harm. 

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Trusting God has become a new buzz word. It is thrown around so loosely that we forget it’s connotation. Anytime we are going through challenging times the first words off the lips of others is normally “Just trust God, it will work out.”
What does it really mean to trust God? I have found in my very own life that trusting God required me to put forth some type of action to show that I believed what God was saying to me. Trusting God required me to stand still at times and knowing with sheer confidence I did not have to be in control. I did not have to come to my own rescue. It assured me that I had help, a reliable source and strength backing me. Proverbs 3:26 here in the Amplified version paints this picture clearly; For the Lord shall be your confidence, firm and strong, and shall keep your foot from being caught [in a trap or some hidden danger].

I implore you today not to take trusting God lightly. He will always be by your side. He is a source of strength in our times of weakness. He is a shield and a buckler whenever we find ourselves in danger. He is a provider when we are in need. And most of all He loves us with an everlasting love. We can rely on His faithfulness. We can trust His heart towards us.

Father even when my trust in You begins to wane. Remind me of Your faithfulness in my life. In Jesus name Amen

Grace and Peace to you,
Mary
Your Breakthrough Coach

 

© Mary Pinckney, December 2017

 

 

How do you do it?!

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Keeping It Together In the Midst of Chaos

How do you keep going during chaos? I struggled with finding the answer to this question for years. As I inquired of the Lord, He began to show me answers through the life of Jesus.

As soon as Jesus heard the news, he left in a boat to a remote area to be alone. But the crowds heard where he was headed and followed on foot from many towns.  Jesus saw the huge crowd as he stepped from the boat, and he had compassion on them and healed their sick.  Matthew 14:13-14 NLT

Jesus withdrew to be alone after receiving the news that His cousin John the Baptist was beheaded but upon seeing the crowd He turned and had compassion on them. Compassion is defined as a feeling of wanting to help someone who is sick, hungry or hurting.  Jesus wanted to ensure that the crowd had what they needed even at a time He was in need. The disciples wanted to send the crowd away but Jesus commanded that they be fed, pointing out that what they needed was within their ability to handle.

Too often, God is asking us to serve others but our own selfish ambitions get in the way. We are so concerned about our own needs and focused on our own insecurities until we miss the multiplication that is possible when God is with us. It is not within our own power to always meet the needs of the crowd. The key is recognizing God is always the source.  When we come to Him admitting our insufficiency, He takes what we have and multiplies it.

Jesus knowing the needs of the people did not turn them aside, He laid His own need aside to ensure the people were taken care of. After doing so, He continued to a place of solitude to pray.  Why is this significant when it comes to keeping it together? We can’t give out daily and not take time to replenish. This is faulty thinking. Anyone that has ever driven a car knows after driving for miles the car will run out of gas. To get more service from that car it must be refilled repeatedly. This is the same for each of us.

Jesus making time to withdraw and pray helped to keep Him connected to His source. It gave Him the power, the grace, the instructions and the wisdom to continue doing the will of the Father. Jesus knew His assignment. He knew daily meetings with His Father were required to ensure He could continue.

The death of John the Baptist is significant because Jesus was hurt by the loss of His cousin and friend. John the Baptist knew He was the Son of God sent to save mankind. As we take this into consideration we find that Jesus had emotions. He did not allow His emotions to hinder Him from doing the will of the Father. He understood His emotions had a place but it was not to move Him from His assignment. Again, this was evident when He saw the crowd. He allowed His purpose to lead.

As we study the life of Jesus we find the answers we need to keep it together when our world turns topsy-turvy. We learn that there is a place for our emotions and a proper way to deal with our own pain in life. We learn the importance of maintaining daily intimacy with God. We learn that we cannot function in our assignment without daily connection with our Father.  He holds the key to keep us together even when we are falling apart.

Grace and peace to you,

Mary,

Your Breakthrough Coach

© Mary Pinckney, October 2017

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Are you a good representative?

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 Lord, when did we see you hungry and give you food? When did we see you thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you with no place to stay and welcome you into our home? When did we see you without clothes and give you something to wear? When did we see you sick or in prison and care for you?’ Then the king will answer, ‘The truth is, anything you did for any of my people here, you also did for me.  Matthew 25:37-40 (NLT) 


We are the hands and feet of Jesus here on the earth. As the Body of Christ, we have been called to be an example to those that do not know Christ. We have been commissioned to be a light in darkness and set apart to draw others into the Kingdom of God. But how exactly do we accomplish this?

In Matthew’s gospel, Jesus gives us a perfect illustration of how this should play out in our everyday lives. We are to feed the hungry, visit the sick, provide clothes and shelter for those that have none, and visit those that are incarcerated. When we take it upon ourselves to love through our actions in any of these ways, we faithfully represent Christ. When we meet the needs of others it glorifies God. All it takes is one random act of kindness to capture the attention of an individual that has lost hope.

Life can sometimes be too much to bear and, when it gets to this point, it is good to know that we have support. It is good to know that we have a place to find hope and reassurance. As representatives of Christ, we have an amazing privilege to plant seeds that will one day bloom into a harvest of new believers. We get to point them toward the safest person of all — Jesus.

I encourage you to be alert and attentive to those you cross paths with daily and seek out opportunities to be that beacon of Hope.

Lord, open our eyes to see those right around us that need a helping hand. May we be attentive and alert on all occasions, ready and willing to serve those in need.  In Jesus name, Amen.

Go Deeper ― Find a way to serve the margininalized of society. For example, you could become a volunteer at a local shelter, nursing home, or teach a bible study at a local prison.

Grace and Peace,
Mary

Your Breakthrough Coach 

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(C) Mary Pinckney, August 2017

Peace be still!

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Everyday we are faced with the choice to rest in the promises of God or to stress over the problems we encounter. It should be an easy decision to make but yet we find ourselves often caught between two opinions. On one hand we want so much to trust and believe that God will do just what He says. On the other hand we find ourselves doubting that He actually cares. After all, God has so much more on His plate than to be concerned about our issues. 
I am so glad that God is not like man. He is much greater than we can ever imagine. His love for us spans wider than the ocean. Before we were even a thought, He knew us. He presdestined us, made us a part of His master plan. That should be grounds for our trust. I have found that it is much easier to trust a God that has a proven track record. I would rather take my chances with God any day than to walk in fear and doubt on a regular basis. I have been there and done that too many times. Today, I choose the peace that comes with trusting that God will perform what He has promised. I may not know when. I may not know how, but I can be confident that He never fails. He has proven Himself faithful time and time again.

Lord it is so easy to get caught up in the turmoil of everyday life and to focus on what we see rather than what You have said. It should always be an easy choice to trust you and rest in Your promises but even the best of us struggle. Teach us daily to renew our mind on Your promises and meditate in the scriptures that speak of Your love, grace, and assurance. May our hearts take courage in knowing that You have left us Your peace. In Jesus name Amen 

Grace and Peace, 
Mary, 

Your Breakthrough Coach ~ Challenging Your Perspective on Life, Love, and Relationships 

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(C) Mary Pinckney, August 2017