Intimacy starts here..

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Friends mean well, even when they hurt you. But when an enemy puts his arm around your shoulder–watch out! Proverbs 27:6 Good News Translation

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Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see in their soul. Author Unknown

Contrary to popular opinion, intimacy is more than just sex. It requires getting to know each other deeply. It is being vulnerable with each other or as Bishop TD Jakes puts it, “in-to-me-see.” It is the time that you and your spouse choose to be transparent and honest with each other despite the fear you may feel about letting it all show. For some, it is easier to bare all in the bedroom rather than baring their soul, but to experience a deeper connection in marriage it takes having those tough conversations. It is the heart to heart conversations that may bring about tears. It often takes lovingly, hurting each other’s feelings, to ensure the relationship is saved.

In our twenty plus years of marriage my husband and I have noticed the most growth in our relationship during the times we had to have those tough conversations. Hiding the deep concerns, fears, and not attending to the issues that are festering in your relationship can destroy true intimacy. According to Dave Willis of Stronger Marriages, “Secrecy is the enemy to intimacy. Every healthy relationship is built on a foundation of honesty and trust.”

To experience true intimacy, we must first begin by being honest with ourselves, with God and with each other. My challenge to you today is to move past every hindrance that so easily besets you and your relationship. Many are plagued with heart issues from the past that have hindered you from connecting totally with God and your spouse. It’s time to deal with the pain of your past. Trust God to heal your heart and restore the damage that has been done as you approach the issue.

Daddy God, I come to you on behalf of my brothers and sisters that are experiencing difficulties in their relationships right now. I ask that You grant them the grace to deal with the tough issues they have been facing. I pray that you will surround them with the support and the encouragement that they need as they begin to have the tough conversations and move forward towards healing. Surround them with Your love. Teach them to love like You love. Minister to the pain that they have experienced over the years and help them to forgive. I pray that You will make their relationship a trophy of Your grace. In Jesus name, Amen.

Go Deeper: Seek out a marriage mentoring couple to help guide you through the challenging times in your relationship. In doing so, make sure that it is a Godly couple that you can trust and that has your best interest in heart.

Blessings to you,

Mary ~ Your Breakthrough Coach

© Mary Pinckney  2018

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It Takes Consistency

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So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. Galatians 6:9 NLT

Most often we want change but we are not willing to do the necessary work to arrive at the change we desire to see. It has been said that consistency is the key to breakthrough. In other words, if lasting change is what you expect, it will take consistent action to get you there.

As we look at the definition of consistent we find that is marked by harmony, regularity, or steady continuity. It is free from variation or contradiction. Is this the effort you are putting forward in accomplishing your goals? If not, it is time to get to work.

For many consistency usually goes out the window whenever discouragement comes in to play. It gets tiring doing the right things over and over again just to be disappointed. This can be the case in healthy choices, relationships, or even goal setting and planning. Whatever the case, we often take for granted that seed time and harvest time will always remain. We will always reap what we sow.

Unfortunately this is true in all aspects, good and bad. I want to encourage you today to keep going if you are indeed on the right track. Often times, you are doing the right things but not doing them enough to see the results you desire.

Lord teach me to hold on even when I don’t see the results I desire to see, especially when I am walking in obedience to what You have commissioned me to do. I know that everything will not happen overnight but I often get discouraged when it takes longer than expected. Help me to no longer judge by what I see but by what You have already spoken. In Jesus’s name Amen.

CALL TO ACTION: It has been said to change a habit, a behavior pattern it takes consistent action over 21 days. What can you commit to doing consistently for the next 21 days in order to see the change you desire?

Grace and peace,

Mary Pinckney~ Your Breakthrough Coach

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© Mary Pinckney, 2018

Right on Time for the New Year

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Shalom,

Mary Pinckney ~ Your Breakthrough Coach

Don’t settle now

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Yes, you will suffer for a short time. But after that, God will make everything right. He will make you strong. He will support you and keep you from falling. He is the God who gives all grace. He chose you to share in his glory in Christ. That glory will continue forever. 1 Peter 5:10 ERV

You can’t give up now; you have come too far. The fight you are in right now is to help strengthen, establish and shape you for where you are going. You may not realize it but someone in your circle has been inspired by the fight that is in you.  If you cave now, you will be selling yourself short.  You are better than that.

Take a moment and consider who will be lacking because of what you did not finish?  In this life we often focus on ourselves when we are going through fiery circumstances. We lose sight of the fact that God has purpose in our pain. He desires to use our lives as a trophy of His grace.

 ust as He told Paul in 2nd Corinthians 12:9 My grace is sufficient for you, my strength  is made perfect in your times of weakness.  God is aware of the struggles you face. He is right there in the midst of it holding you up with His righteous right hand. He is there to help comfort your pain in the midnight hour. He is there to capture your tears in a bottle.  The challenge for us is to be able to see the glimpse of hope in the midst of the darkness we may be facing. 

 

My challenge to you today is to take a moment and reflect on the grace of God in your life. Sometimes the toughest challenges reveal the greatest strength.  Don’t walk away in the midst of the battle; you have what it takes to see it through.  It starts with believing in yourself and your own ability to become who God has created you to be.

 

Lord, all too often I struggle with staying consistent in the midst of challenges. Here I am today, committing my works to your hands. I ask that You would come along side of me and help me  to continue on even when times are hard. I ask that You would give me the grace and the strength needed to keep fighting and pushing until I see the reward You have for me. Infuse me with inner strength I pray. It is my desire to please you in all that I do. In Jesus’s name, Amen

 

Go Deeper:  Take time to create a confidence board with motivational quotes, scriptures, and reminders of God’s faithfulness to you over the years.  Every time you get discouraged take a look at where you came from as a point of encouragement.

 

Grace and Peace,

 

Mary

 

Your Breakthrough Coach

 

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© Mary Pinckney, October 2017


 

Are you a good representative?

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 Lord, when did we see you hungry and give you food? When did we see you thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you with no place to stay and welcome you into our home? When did we see you without clothes and give you something to wear? When did we see you sick or in prison and care for you?’ Then the king will answer, ‘The truth is, anything you did for any of my people here, you also did for me.  Matthew 25:37-40 (NLT) 


We are the hands and feet of Jesus here on the earth. As the Body of Christ, we have been called to be an example to those that do not know Christ. We have been commissioned to be a light in darkness and set apart to draw others into the Kingdom of God. But how exactly do we accomplish this?

In Matthew’s gospel, Jesus gives us a perfect illustration of how this should play out in our everyday lives. We are to feed the hungry, visit the sick, provide clothes and shelter for those that have none, and visit those that are incarcerated. When we take it upon ourselves to love through our actions in any of these ways, we faithfully represent Christ. When we meet the needs of others it glorifies God. All it takes is one random act of kindness to capture the attention of an individual that has lost hope.

Life can sometimes be too much to bear and, when it gets to this point, it is good to know that we have support. It is good to know that we have a place to find hope and reassurance. As representatives of Christ, we have an amazing privilege to plant seeds that will one day bloom into a harvest of new believers. We get to point them toward the safest person of all — Jesus.

I encourage you to be alert and attentive to those you cross paths with daily and seek out opportunities to be that beacon of Hope.

Lord, open our eyes to see those right around us that need a helping hand. May we be attentive and alert on all occasions, ready and willing to serve those in need.  In Jesus name, Amen.

Go Deeper ― Find a way to serve the margininalized of society. For example, you could become a volunteer at a local shelter, nursing home, or teach a bible study at a local prison.

Grace and Peace,
Mary

Your Breakthrough Coach 

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(C) Mary Pinckney, August 2017

You got this!

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When He had stopped speaking, He said to Simon, “Launch out into the deep and let down your nets for a catch.” But Simon answered and said to Him, “Master, we have toiled all night and caught nothing; nevertheless at Your word I will let down the net.” And when they had done this, they caught a great number of fish, and their net was breaking. Luke 5:4‭-‬6 NKJV


Lord,  help us to walk out the path that You have given us with a spirit of boldness and tenacity knowing that you will not let us fall. You have called us to walk by faith and not by what we see. Help us I pray, to move forward trusting in who we are and what You have placed in us. In Jesus name, Amen.
Grace and Peace, 

Mary 

Your Breakthrough Coach -Challenging your perspective on Life, Love, and Relationships 

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(C) Mary Pinckney, July 2017

It’s all about control

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Matthew 5:13 (MSG)
“Let me tell you why you are here. You’re here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth. If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness? You’ve lost your usefulness and will end up in the garbage.

Can you face a situation that is out of your control without acting out of control? This is a tough question for many to answer. We are so prone to acting out when we


are faced with difficult situations much less difficult people.

When we are faced with the choice of reacting or responding to the situation at hand, as a believer, we have a greater responsibility. We must remember that we are the salt of the earth. We are the
light of the world. Our job is to maintain the character of God. When we act out of control rather than responding in wisdom we give others the wrong perspective of what a Christian looks like. No, that does not mean we have to be perfect, but it does mean
when we miss it, we should be quick to make amends and get it right.

Emotions are not bad but they must be managed properly. If your buttons are always being pushed then you have handed over your power to other people, it’s time to take your control back. We must actively
set boundaries for ourselves to ensure that we are not taken advantage of but we must remember that it is not our place to retaliate or put people in their place. It is God’s job to help change people. It is our place to love and respect others while leading
them to Christ.  The Bible tells us in Hebrews 12:14 if at all possible,
we should live at peace with all men. This can be a challenge because we are faced with so many different personalities. If we stay in tuned with God He can help teach us how to handle each one.

My challenge to you today is to practice allowing God to fight your battles. How do you put that in action you may ask? Walk away when you are in a situation that you feel you have to yell to get your
point across.  Take some deep breaths and pray before responding to that irate individual. The point here is to maintain your control.

Father, it is my prayer that You will infuse those that are struggling in this area with inner strength. Your Word declares that You are a perfect help in the time of trouble. May they
find the grace needed to keep it together when they want to lash out or act unseemly. 
May they find the grace needed to maintain their peace in the midst of turmoil. Heal the root issues that keep bringing them back to this response. Open the eyes of their understanding today, In Jesus name Amen.

Go Deeper: What are you afraid of? When did you begin reacting the way you do? 
What happened to get you to this place? Take a moment and journal your answers to the questions above.

Grace and Peace,

Mary

Your Breakthrough Coach ~ Challenging your perspective on life, love, and relationships

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© Mary Pinckney, June 2017

 

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