Happy Valentine’s Day


True Intimacy

Friends mean well, even when they hurt you. But when an enemy puts his arm around your shoulder–watch out! Proverbs 27:6 Good News Translation

“Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see in their soul.” (Author Unknown).
Contrary to popular opinion, intimacy is more than just sex. It requires getting to know each other deeply. It is being vulnerable with each other or as Bishop TD Jakes puts it, “in-to-me-see.” It is the time that you and your spouse choose to be transparent and honest with each other despite the fear you may feel about letting it all show. For some, it is easier to bare all in the bedroom rather than baring their soul, but to experience a deeper connection in marriage it takes having those tough conversations. It is the heart to heart conversations that may bring about tears. It often takes lovingly, hurting each other’s feelings, to ensure the relationship is saved.
In our twenty plus years of marriage my husband and I have noticed the most growth in our relationship during the times we had to have those tough conversations. Hiding the deep concerns, fears, and not attending to the issues that are festering in your relationship can destroy true intimacy. According to Dave Willis of Stronger Marriages, “Secrecy is the enemy to intimacy. Every healthy relationship is built on a foundation of honesty and trust.”
To experience true intimacy, we must first begin by being honest with ourselves, with God and with each other. My challenge to each couple this Valentine’s Day is to move past every hindrance that so easily besets you and your relationship. Many are plagued with heart issues from the past that have hindered you from connecting totally with God and your spouse. It’s time to deal with the pain of your past. Trust God to heal your heart and restore the damage that has been done as you approach the issue.
Let’s Pray….Daddy God, I come to you on behalf of my brothers and sisters that are experiencing difficulties in their relationships right now. I ask that You grant them the grace to deal with the tough issues they have been facing. I pray that you will surround them with the support and the encouragement that they need as they begin to have the tough conversations and move forward towards healing. Surround them with Your love. Teach them to love like You love. Minister to the pain that they have experienced over the years and help them to forgive. I pray that You will make their relationship a trophy of Your grace. In Jesus name, Amen.
Go Deeper: Seek out a marriage mentoring couple to help guide you through the challenging times in your relationship. In doing so, make sure that it is a Godly couple that you can trust and that has your best interest in heart.

Grace and Peace,

Mary ~ Your Breakthrough Coach



© Mary Pinckney, February 2018

To Be Loved By You


Praise be to the Lord, for he showed me the wonders of his love when I was in a city under siege. 22 In my alarm I said am cut off  from your sight!” Yet you heard my cry for mercy when I called to you for help. Psalm 31:21-22 NIV


Today as I sit reflecting on love and grace in my life I realize that You have always been there, even in the times I felt You abandoned me. I realize now that my feelings do not dictate Your actions. My feelings do not tell me the truth about Your love for me. My feelings cannot even begin to fathom the depths of Your love for me. I’m fragile and fail at times, in need of Your strength and Your resilience. You are strong and powerful, yet oh so gentle in Spirit. Your love is too grand to even measure.

It is so overwhelming knowing that I am held even in the times I feel alone. It is so refreshing to know that You are not like man, You are not here just because of what I can give.

You are here because You love me for me.

I so love the way you love me.

I love the way You calm my fears when I am shaken.

I love the way You whisper my name to let me know You are near and I am loved by You.  Oh to sense Your presence in those times of loneliness and feel Your embrace when I am weary and afraid. There is none like You Oh God.

You are my Peace.

You are my Rock.

You are my Hope.

You are the Lover of my soul, in You I find peace.

 In You I find rest. In You I find the grace to continue on.

Thank You Lord for reminding me that You are still here. You have not forgotten about me. You have not forsaken me. You are working even when I can’t see it. Even when I don’t believe it. Thank you. My fears were real. They were valid and You heard me. You heard my cry. You answered every complaint showing me that You care. You are concerned about me. You are with me. You got me. Thank you.

Grace and Peace


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© Mary Pinckney, May 2017

Happy Valentines Day 



Somebody is waiting on you…


“ The Almighty Lord will teach me what to say, so I will know how to encourage weary people. Morning after morning he will wake me   to listen like a student.” Isaiah 50:4 “(GW) 


Too many people are walking around not knowing what to do or where to turn and we hold the answers within us.  No, our lives may not be perfect, but we do serve a perfect God. He knows the plans and the purposes He has set for us. Along the course of our journey we should be willing to make ourselves available when He needs to interrupt our plans.  The challenge we are in right now, may hold the key to someone’s victory. That is, if we would take the time to stop murmuring and complaining and learn the lessons.

The Lord would often send others to help encourage and strengthen our hearts in hopes that we would begin to do the same for those that cross our path. Take the time today and pay close attention to that still small voice within.  Begin to share a smile, a hug, or just a few kind words with a stranger or a friend and watch their life blossom. You never know whose live you may be saving. That is the power of encouragement.

Nothing in our lives is wasted. Everything that we have encountered has purpose.  It helps to remember that we were not created to serve ourselves but to serve those around us. You are the answer to someone else’s dilemma.  You are their miracle. Will you make yourself available?

Father, I pray that we will be sensitive to your voice today as we encounter those that need your love. I pray that we will rise above our own needs and problems and begin to see the needs of those around us. May we see with your eyes and hear with your ears today. In Jesus’s name, Amen.

Grace and Peace,


© Mary Pinckney 2015

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In God I Have Put My Trust…



In God have I put my trust and confident reliance; I will not be afraid. Psalm 56:11a

Father, I lift up my brothers and sisters that are dealing with fear in the midst of their current circumstances. I thank you that we can faithfully put our trust in you at all times. You will never leave us nor forsake us, even when we don’t understand your plans. Thank you for your unfailing love towards us. May your peace rest, rule and abide with us throughout our day. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Grace and Peace,



Past Hurts…


“Other people are going to find healing in your wounds. Your greatest life messages and your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts.” Rick Warren

Blessings to you!



Why Can’t We All Just Get Along!!



Live in harmony with one another; do not be haughty (snobbish, high-minded, exclusive), but readily adjust yourself to [people, things] and give yourselves to humble tasks. Never overestimate yourself or be wise in your own conceits.

Romans 12:16 (AMP)  


Relationships are tough to be in at times, but not impossible to master. When I speak of relationships, I am not just referring to marital relationships but all relationships. We all have many relationships in our lives. In every one of these relationships we must learn to relate to each other.

It is hard being in relationships in which you feel mistreated. However, God has made it possible to do the impossible even when we are in a difficult place. One important lesson the Holy Spirit taught me years ago, was to seek peace and pursue it. In order to do that, it took work on my part. Our reference scripture today is one I had to keep close to my heart.

In relationships, we should always aim at living in harmony with each other. In order to do that, we each must readily adjust ourselves to people and situations. This is not always easy to do, but the grace of God is available to help us. Oftentimes we don’t take the time to process why challenges come in relationships. We are too quick to judge. We should never judge by what we see or hear for that matter. We must take the time to find out the root of the issues we are dealing with. Some situations are simply a misunderstanding.

 On another note, selfishness has no place in healthy relationships. Harmony will come when we begin to put others above ourselves. This is one of the characteristics of Jesus. The Bible is filled with many examples teaching us how to handle our relationships. It is important for us to learn from the best Teacher; the Holy Spirit. It is impossible for us to love the Lord, whom we can’t see, and not love those that are with us daily.

 Father, I pray for those that are struggling in their relationships. I pray that we will begin to rely on the grace you have already provided to help us in our times of need. Minister to our hearts today and allow us to see truth in every situation. Teach us how to love like you love, Father.

Grace and Peace,


© Mary Pinckney, 2013

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